I trust you. I trust that the deepest part of you, your intuitive self, knows what is best for you. I was once told that PTSD is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. You may never be the same, but you can learn to live in a new way, love in a new way and be the new person you have become.
1. Be open to living just one more day. You may just see one way out, I see many. I know that if you follow your heart, you will find more ways to live more vibrantly, with love all things are possible. There are many ways to live. It is okay to chose a new way of living, things may have to change, relationships may have to end.
2. Trust your instincts to discern real dangers and dangerous people. Your instincts direct you to safety. It will be a calm still voice. that directs you to safety. Learn to hear and be obedient to it. Read more about your instincts in the book by Gavin De Becker , “The Gift of Fear” http://gavindebecker.com/resources/book/the_gift_of_fear/
3. Do no harm to yourself or others. Do you best to communicate your feelings to those you love, what is happening in the present moment. Find new ways to handle conflict. To create a safer world for yourself, build an authentic support system, be in nature and explore your spirituality.
4. Find the gifts in the tragedy or traumatic gifts. What is the gift? Happy to have known the person who passed away, you find a new support system, found love or God’s presence. There is always a gift from the tragedies in your life , if you leave your self open to the journey. The tragic event is not the destination of your life, it is the journey to having a deeper more meaningful life. A tragedy always has deep and profound gifts, always.
5. Create as much safety as you can where ever you are. Know where the exits are ev ery where you go. Take self defense classes. Make your home safer. Give your self a sense of safety. Know what gives you authentic security. You have the right not to be near negative, dangerous, harmful people. You have permission to be safe.
6. Write down what happened in rich detail, receive the gift and then let go of what happened. Did it make you stronger? Are you more protective of others? Do you trust your instincts now? Write it all down in as much detail as possible, using smells, colors , sounds, noises feelings. When you are complete, in your own way, destroy the paper. Crumble it up in a ball, place it in a fire, tear it up or pour water on it. You may do this several times until the emotions lessen. You may also want to share it, if you are up to it.
7. Honor death. When we are born, it is a fact we will all die some day. As best you can become at peace with the fact that death comes to all of us, in any ways that are unknown and unexpected us. But the fact is we will all die someday. By finding peace with the one thing we do know, we may begin to find joy in the life we are living right now. Moment by Moment.
Most of all, remember that you were innocent. I remember your innocence.